Are you worried about your relationship? Are you arguing more than usual or feeling like you are roommates? Are you worried you are heading for separation or divorce? Marital researchers have shown that there are certain behaviors and thoughts that predict if a relationship is heading for separation or divorce. Listed are some statements. Read and answer true or false to them. If you have a pattern of behaviors or thoughts that are mirrored in these following statements, your relationship is in distress. You may wish to seriously consider seeking professional help before it is too late.
- Little arguments are escalating into ugly fights with accusations, criticisms, threats, name calling, or bringing up past hurts.
- My partner criticizes, or belittles my opinions, feelings, or desires.
- I criticize or belittle my partner's opinions, feelings, or desires.
- My partner seems to view my words or actions more negatively than I mean them to be.
- I view my partner's words or actions more negatively than they mean them to be.
- I do not feel valued by my partner, or I do not value my partner.
- I do not feel it is "safe" to share my feelings, thoughts, or desires in our relationship, or they have expressed that they do not feel safe sharing these with me.
- I seriously consider what it would be like to date or to be married to someone else.
- I feel lonely in the relationship, or my partner has expressed feeling lonely.
- When we argue, one tries to withdraw and not talk about it anymore, even leaving the premises, while the other will not let the argument drop.
If you answered true to the majority of the statements, and want further information, please feel free to call me at (843) 343-5684, or email me at wendy.molinaroli@comcast.net.
